Donor on Board! (and baby on board soon, I hope!)

I approved her! Was there any doubt? Well, yes, there was. I wasn't thrilled about her being 31. I mean, I imagined a 21 year old but I emailed my nurse a series of specific questions and her report was over-the-top satisfying. So here goes:

Donor's last cycle was 11/08.
She produced 41 eggs, 31 fertilized, 2 5-day blasts transferred and 14 5-day blasts frozen.
That recipient is 16 weeks pregnant with singleton.

She had only two cycles prior to that, and was told each recipient received a BFP on the fresh transfer with blasts to freeze. Then I asked if there were any miscarriages and was told this:

"Absolutely not. All proven in-house CCRM donors MUST result in a BFP with zero miscarriages(whether the donor's personal miscarriage or that of the recipient)."

This is what Dr. Surrey told me back in October during my work-up, but it was good to hear again.

Her FSH was 7.2 a year ago and they said they don't test women for AMH when their cycles are that good.

And her antral follicle count for her last November cycle was between 20-24.

Then there was what my nurse said about always feeling better about donors who aren't so young, as the older ones tend to be very responsible with medication schedules and that she's personally worked with this one and said she was wonderful to work with.

Ultimately, between all of that information and the fact that CCRM holds the #1 spot in the country, I felt good about approving her. Whew!

So....just picked up my BCPs for CD3 end of this month. The donor has a schedule conflict and can't begin her stim until June 1st - which is fine. I should get a schedule in the next week or so and egg retrieval should be around June 9th.

Wow! It's really happening!

Now for the sperm donor. Ugh! I'm no farther along on that front, but I want to thank you all for commenting and I thought long and hard about your thoughts - you can't imagine how helpful they were to me.

Nikki and Lorraine made an amazing blended point: it's just going to be the two of us (maybe another down the road) and children can be so hurtful sometimes. I thought about how I would feel to have a little baby with milky white skin, blond hair and blue eyes but I really never considered how the child would feel. I mean, since I love that look, it never occurred to me that our differences might make him/her feel out of place somehow or that there would be teasing questions from little kiddy friends. And that would crush me.

Then I started to laugh at what is likely to happen to me ('cause I'm a girl too familiar with Murphy's Law!). My best friend of over 20 years is Cuban (like me) and her hair and eyes are JET black. Her skin is olive. Her husband is also Cuban but with light brown hair and light brown eyes. Their first child, a girl, looks Swedish - white/blond hair, blue eyes and the fairest complexion. Their second child, a boy, has brown hair and eyes and looks . . . well . . . Cuban. Well, when her daughter was a baby, my friend would walk her in her stroller and people would stop her and ask all of the time if she was the nanny (Hispanic looking woman with a baby who looked like Shiloh Jolie-Pitt) - never mind that my friend is ridiculously wealthy and doesn't look like a nanny (no offense to Hispanic Nanny's intended here).

(note: for reference of what a typical white Cuban person looks like, think of Andy Garcia - he is the classic Cuban).

So what can I do? If the kid winds up looking just like the egg donor, I'll have to deal with it, and I certainly would. My hope is that my child would have dark hair, light eyes (my eyes are very light brown, my dad's were lt. mint green) and medium complexion. From an appearance standpoint, that would be terrific!

Right now, I'm down to 3 choices for sperm donors. The too-light Astrophysicist (PhD), a hottie-Spaniard Pharmacist (PhD) and a black-haired green eyed John Stamos look-alike (he's hot too). Say, can I hook up with that last one? ;)

I still have some time on the sperm donors so we'll see where I net out (and you'll be the first to know!). Thank you all again, from the bottom of my heart, for being so generous with your thoughts and comments. I truly do love to hear them!