2/16/09

"I would never go to a fertility clinic and put 'toxic drugs' into my body to have a baby."

That's what I overheard a woman at the Starbucks saying. Of course I was hurt and I wanted to smack her down and advise her to shut her mouth until she's experienced infertility and then see just how far she'd go. I don't think you can EVER IMAGINE what you'd do until you're in this unfortunate place.

Want to know what preceded that comment? The friend in line with her commented "Sheila, I know you want a biological child but you've been trying for 2 years and at 43, you really shouldn't waste any more time and see an infertility doctor."

I pity her naivete because I know she's going to either eat those words or face the very challenging realities of adoption (if she really wants a baby, anyway).

10 comments:

kayjay said...

Ignorant. That's all I have to say. She sneers now but you know what? She is going to find out in a hurry that the face of infertility is her own face and she shouldn't be so judgemental. Grrrr....I hate what Octomom has made IVF into.

Lost in Space said...

Ouch. I hate that this will come back to bite her in the ass as I know it took me a bit to get on the IF doctor train in the beginning.

It's sad that she is so naive. Yes, it can happen, but it isn't likely at this point. Also she needs to research a bit more to learn that those "toxic drugs" aren't much more than hormones we already have. They might be her only hope.......

Mo said...

Ugh. infuriating. and yet I feel bad for her too. she has no idea what awaits her.

Sue said...

Octomom is pissing me off. Everywhere I go now you hear ignorant comments like this. But, I do feel very sorry for this woman. It was hard for me to figure out that at 34, I am hitting the fertility cliff and I've been obsessively pursuing fertility treatments (and wishing I wasn't so careful with birth control in my 20's!!!). At 43, she has a major shock ahead of her. Yes, some get lucky, but as we all know, egg quality does not get better with age. That is so sad.

Retro Girl said...

Yucky! Yuck! I've experienced that type of comment before - directed at me... not even at the crazy octo lady. I really don't understand the words "I never would...." I guess I understand them when I person has been in THE EXACT SITUATION and made a choice, then they truly know if they "never would"...but until that time...the use of the "I never" statement is just naive and ignorant.

Sorry you had to hear that.

Anonymous said...

Wow, I can't believe I haven't been reading your blog all along - we are like IVF twins or something. Except I'm 43. Good for you planning a cruise - doesn't IVF just mess up your social life?! I just went to NYC (planned around a cycle) and it was so great to just forget all the stuff before starting up on the drugs again. I hope things get better with CCRM, I've been regretting my decision to go locally but maybe things aren't all rosy with the Big Boys either! Good luck!

Me said...

Too right!!!

Anonymous said...

I believe that's what they call 'just desserts.' And she's possibly due for an extra large helping at 43.

wifethereof said...

She will eat those words, trust me.

$8 bill? WTH?
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Kami said...

I don't think I said "never" but definitely didn't want to. My hesitancy (and that of my hubby) likely cost me a genetic child.

Bring on the toxic drugs!